If Your Brother Sins Against You

Two young woman having a conversation over coffee. The words from Matthew 18:15 NIRV, “If your brother or sister sins against you, go to them. Tell them what they did wrong. Keep it between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them back."
by Beeda Speis for Peace In The Stillness

Whenever there is friction between us and another person, the best thing to do is open the lines of communication. Often our anger and resentment stems from unresolved issues, but have we tried to resolve them? Any type of negative emotion tends to magnify over time if there’s no attempt to talk it out. Thankfully, God tells us what to do for every situation through His Word. He tells us exactly what to do if your brother sins against you.

Personally, I’m guilty of burying my negative feelings. I’m not comfortable talking to someone I have issues with, especially if I’ve already determined what their responses will be. Instead of giving them the opportunity to state their side of the situation, I let the whole conversation play out in my head because I’m so sure what they’ll say. In actuality, I can’t know their answers or their side of the story. It’s not fair to deny them their voice.

I’ve read this passage many times, but I never seem to think of it when I’m in a situation where it’s needed. Sometimes I think it’s because it’s just easier to stew in my own discontent. Some conversations are difficult. Having those conversations could restore a priceless relationship. It’s worth the effort.

Bible Verse of the Day

“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.

Matthew 18:15-17 ESV


Please pray for these brothers and sisters who are going through a rough time with someone they love or who are feeling isolated right now: K., S., J., C., T., L., A. If you know of other people we can be praying for, send me their first initial. Let’s share the love and healing power of Christ Jesus. Pray that the non-believers above will hear the gospel and come to faith.


Lord, we come to You in praise that You gave us the Bible to teach us how to deal with life here on Earth. There is so much to learn from Your Word. You teach us by example from those who came before us. You teach us through poetry, from letters. It’s another reminder that You are here with us day in and day out. Thank You, Lord, for Your love and grace. May we bestow that level of love and grace on everyone we meet. May we learn by Your example what it means to truly love someone. Lord, we pray You give us the help we need to forgive one another, to communicate openly with those we have issues with, and strengthen all of our relationships. Father, we ask these things in Jesus’ name. Amen.

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